Recover the half-remembered person
Begin with a skill, project or detail the person shared. Open the supporting message to distinguish a stated preference from your interpretation.
The person
behind the profile.
Their interests, their timing, and what you discussed last time. Keep the conversation behind the profile in reach.
A better starting point
than “checking in.”
Search a skill, project or topic you discussed, then read the original conversation. Check when a preference was shared before treating it as current. Find a past exchange.
Joel Chia
A friendship that travelled with you.
The important parts, still in reach.
- 2011The library table. The same early mornings.
- 2019A move abroad. A conversation that continued.
- 2026South Park, San Francisco. Coffee when you’re in town.
Remember changing context
A move, a different priority, or a new way to get in touch.
Follow through personally
Keep the next step connected to the person. Use personal follow-ups and Preparation to return to the context before getting in touch.